This video provides a different point of view: this is what refueling your F/A-18F Super Hornet from another “Rhino” (as the SH is dubbed in the naval aviation “slang”) looks like.
The buddy refueler in the video is an F/A-18E in a “five wet” configuration, that is to say it carries five external fuel tanks.
Notice how many corrections are required to eventually plug the probe into the basket.